Take responsibility for your sex life and do all those things you’ve thought about.

Virgins don’t know what’s up – you do! Finally take responsibility for your own sexual satisfaction and growth. Stop saying things like “Nice people don’t do that,” “No one wants to have sex with someone who looks like me,” and “I can’t tell my partner what I need – he never gets it.”

Is it true that Mrs. Robinson, Stifler’s Mom, and Stacie’s Mom have got it goin’ on? There’s an urban legend out there that goes something like this: women get wild as they near menopause, and they pursue defenseless young men to satisfy their insatiable sex drives. Truth? Well, where there’s smoke, there may be women with hot flashes – who knows? We do know that the ratio of testosterone to estrogen increases at midlife, so the man-eating midlife mama may not be just a myth.More…

70% of sexual problems over 40 are tied to treatable physical or emotional problems. Don’t automatically attribute the fact that you don’t “feel like it” to anger, aging, indifference, boredom or weight gain. Find out why you don’t have the response you used to. Schedule a check-up, get the proper medication, cut the booze, eat right, get some exercise, or see the shrink.

Being a sexual woman at midlife will require more maintenance and investigation than it did at 30 – deal with it! Not all birth control pills help PMS and perimenopause symptoms. Those with a lower ratio of progestin to estradiol (like Ovcon 35 and Yasmin) are more likely to help. Only one kind of hormone replacement (synthetic) was investigated in the WHI trials you’ve heard about. Hormones identical to those in your body were not studied, and bioidentical products like Vivelle, Estrace, estriol cream and Prometrium have been around for years. They can be used for hot flashes, sleep disturbance, vaginal dryness, and bladder and mental focus problems for a few months, a year, or the rest of your life – it’s up to you.