and that’s normal.  Recent studies point out that the infatuation stage of a relationship is relatively short-lived and that a more relaxed mode is the norm for most couples.  Yes, there are those couples who seem to permanently reside on Planet Cootchie Coo, but a different reality is OK, too.  If there are things about your partner that you genuinely admire, that you would miss if they were gone, concentrate on those realities and add some erotic literature or film to amp up your fantasy life together.  If you truly like the guy, why take off for Tibet and blow up your life?  Add some fun to your relationship one weekend at a time.  Do some things he likes and some things you like and talk about it all in the car as you’re out and about.  The car or when you’re out for a walk are “safe” places for many people to talk about touchy issues.Would it be more fun if you could just feel the heat for each other the way you did those first few months?  Probably.  But if you focus on the attractive things about him, you can change your perception of your husband.  You can get a whole new “thing” started for each other based on your shared history and the romantic future you plan together.  It’s going to take a little more work, but you didn’t question hard work when you were raising your kids.  You were committed.  Now you can change your thinking about your partner by changing your actions.